observe: absorb nox-memtrace, repoint the tree onto observe
nox-memtrace was a maintained fork of Jane Street's memtrace; it now lives in
ocaml-observe as observe.memtrace, so there is no external fork to track and the
capture format can evolve with the obs tooling. This drops the nox-memtrace and
nox-memtrace-eio packages and repoints every bench and opam dependency in the
tree at observe, and adds the obs SQLite sink so traces can be queried with SQL.